Chastity Glossary

The world of chastity

Complete Chastity Glossary

The world of chastity is rich and nuanced, but with so much information available, it can sometimes be challenging to discern reality from fantasy. To make things easier, here is a comprehensive glossary explaining common terminology and buzzwords associated with chastity. This guide aims to serve as a useful reference for beginners and seasoned practitioners alike.

Chastity often overlaps with BDSM terminology, as elements of the chastity lifestyle frequently fall under the BDSM umbrella. However, chastity does not have to coexist with BDSM; many relationships incorporate chastity without any or minimal BDSM elements.

Male Chastity

The concept of a man locking, or being locked, in a chastity cage. This practice can enhance intimacy within a relationship or be part of a sexual power exchange dynamic between partners.

Chastity Cage

A device fitted to the penis that restricts erections and minimizes opportunities for sexual activities such as masturbation.

Cobra Cage

A lightweight chastity cage made from ABS plastic, characterized by its mesh-like design. Its durability and non-metallic nature make it a popular choice, especially for travel or extended wear.

Nub Chastity

Refers to a specific design and size of chastity cages. The term "nub" suggests a very small and compact cage, such as the well-known V4 Nub. These cages are designed to create a "small lump or protuberance" appearance, often favored for their restrictive nature.

Enforced Chastity

While all chastity play begins with consent, enforced chastity involves a dynamic where the keyholder exerts control over the wearer's release schedule. This may include extending lock-up periods or denying unlock requests, adding an extra layer of intensity and power exchange to the relationship.

Female Led Relationship (FLR)

A relationship dynamic where the woman holds primary control over all aspects of the relationship, including household decisions and sexual dynamics. This structure often complements chastity lifestyles but is not exclusive to them.

Chastity Keyholder

A keyholder is someone who takes responsibility for the chastity cage key. This could be a partner, friend, professional mistress, or dominant. Professional keyholders may charge a fee to manage the key and impose rules or timeframes for unlock periods.

Dominant

In BDSM dynamics, the dominant (Dom or Domme) assumes control in the relationship or play session. Dominants often incorporate chastity cages into scenes or as part of their overall dynamic, though this does not necessarily imply permanent chastity.

Submissive

The submissive (Sub) offers themselves consensually to the dominant. In chastity, the submissive may relinquish control over their ability to orgasm or engage in sexual activity, creating a powerful bond of trust and control.

Slave Contract

A formal agreement outlining the rules and expectations of a BDSM dynamic. In the context of chastity, contracts may include details about minimum or maximum lock-up periods, rules for release, and stipulations for orgasm control.

Flat Chastity Cage

A cage design that eliminates any protrusion of the penis, resulting in a flat appearance. These cages are suitable for individuals with very small genitals or for those who have progressively trained to wear smaller devices.

Negative Chastity

Taking flat chastity a step further, negative chastity cages push the penis back into the body entirely. Popular in feminization and sissy play, these devices remove the visual aspect of the male genitalia, intensifying the psychological element of chastity.

Long-Term Chastity

Refers to wearing a chastity cage for an extended period, often weeks, months, or even years. This practice requires trust, preparation, and commitment between the wearer and the keyholder.

Tease and Denial

A common element in chastity play where the keyholder stimulates the wearer sexually without allowing release or orgasm. This builds anticipation and reinforces the power dynamic.

Chastity Training

A process where the wearer gradually adjusts to life in chastity. This might include increasing lock-up durations over time or practicing with smaller cages.

Plastic Chastity Cage

A type of chastity device made from lightweight, non-metallic materials. These are often more comfortable for beginners and suitable for travel as they do not trigger metal detectors.

Metal Chastity Cage

A more robust and secure type of cage made from stainless steel or similar materials. These are heavier and often considered more permanent than plastic alternatives.

Ball Trap Device

A common type of chastity cage that secures in place by trapping the testicles behind a ring, preventing the device from being removed without unlocking it.

Full Belt Chastity

A more comprehensive chastity device that includes a waistband and crotch piece to prevent any genital contact. These are less common but offer complete security.

Emergency Key

A secondary key provided to the wearer for emergency situations. This key is often sealed in tamper-proof packaging to ensure it is only used when absolutely necessary.

Locktober

An annual event in October where participants commit to staying locked in chastity for the entire month. It is a popular challenge within the chastity community.

Keyholding Service

A professional arrangement where a keyholder, often a dominatrix or online service, manages the wearer’s key. This adds an additional layer of commitment and external control.

Chastity is a versatile and deeply personal practice. Whether you are exploring it as part of a BDSM relationship, a romantic partnership, or for personal growth, understanding the terminology can enhance your journey and foster better communication. With this glossary, you now have a foundational reference to navigate the intriguing world of chastity confidently.